编按:10月4日的国大校园团契聚会是《苦难有意义吗?》。10月11日的聚会继续以实践为主轴,盼望大家从苦难的意义得到更大的启发。 针对上个星期的讲座之《苦难有意义吗?》,本周大组的讲座邀请到了一位自闭症母亲与我们分享她的心路历程。 Ms Brenda Tan 育有两名子女,分别为13岁的儿子Calder以及10岁的女儿。Calder在13岁时被诊断出患有自闭症。这完全颠覆了Brenda和她丈夫的人生。自闭症患者大致上有三大方面有别于常人,分别是沟通方式,社交能力以及生活习惯。他们似乎生活在另一个世界里,与周围的人没有太多的接触。Calder属于中度自闭儿,他时常会发出让人捉摸不透的声音和重复一些无厘头的动作,因此遭受许多旁人的冷眼与嘲讽。这对于Calder来说或许不是个问题,因为他并不在意别人对他的看法,但是对身为母亲的Brenda来说却是难以抚平的伤痛。眼看着儿子因为一些毫无恶意的举动而遭受歧视却无法保护自己,她心里有许多的无奈。 儿子在大庭广众情绪失控是Brenda最大的担忧之一。有一次,她带着Calder到Kovan买午餐,打算之后接女儿放学。当时Calder开始反复地拍打她的肩膀,仿佛想要一些东西。不料,Calder却因为母亲稍微带有刺激性口吻的回应而受惊吓,顿时情绪失控。他开始狂打母亲,赤脚跑向马路,躺在地上打滚。Brenda当时不知所措,一方面急着想办法安抚儿子,另一方面又因为他打母亲的行为而感到难过。所幸有位路过的热心人士将母子俩送到附近的巴士站。当时,他们因为经过了一番折腾而感到疲惫不堪,两人瘫坐在地上。她惘然想起女儿还在学校等待着她,但却实在是无力去接。束手无策的她向上帝祷告,呼求神帮助她。之后她奇妙地遇见了女儿同学的帮佣路经巴士站,就嘱咐她帮忙把女儿接回家,度过了难关。 以上只是Brenda所经历过的其中之一。Calder的存在的确改变了她的生命。结婚之前的她是充满自信的,认为只要努力就一定能达到所设定的目标。但自从Calder的出现,她才发觉有许多事情是她无法主宰的。当她在最无助,无法解决问题的时候,她学习依靠,交托和仰望神,求神以祂自己奇妙的方式来帮助她和儿子。Brenda也透露由于自己是基督徒,所以心里有盼望,期盼到了新天新地就不再有眼泪和悲伤。但对于非信徒而言,自闭症患者的家人大多时间都生活在痛苦,忧郁和绝望中。经过调查,自闭症患者的父母亲最普遍的挂虑莫过于担心孩子无法独立养活自己,以后无依无靠。同时,他们也因为亲戚朋友的嫌弃与鄙视而感到沮丧。Brenda渴望身边经历着同样问题的朋友能因着信靠耶稣而得到盼望。 Brenda在分享过程中提到了作基督徒不意味着不会遇到苦难。相反的,我们都和非信徒一样,各自在人生不同方面都面对着一些挫折,挑战或试炼。但是有一样十分重要的不同之处就是我们有主耶稣在前头为我们挡风遮雨,牵引我们。祂是平静风浪,在水面上行走的神,是我们可依靠的磐石。因此,当我们在面对困境,感觉似乎无法解决的问题的时候,让我们不仅仅只是看见前头波涛汹涌的风浪,更是要看见且坚信在风浪之上掌管万有的神。祂能,且愿意助我们走过坎坷的崎岖路。 分享的尾声,Brenda也提出了一些我们能为自闭症患者及家人做的宝贵建议。在列出之前,我想强调我们必须意识到所有的行为追究到底都源自同一个跟源,那就是神的爱。 我们应该更深入地认识自闭症,通过阅读有关的书籍或上网查阅资料,并致力于分享给身边的亲朋戚友,让他们更了解自闭症患者的习性,提高对自闭症的意识。这能纠正许多人对自闭症的错误观念,排除鄙视的现象,同时塑造更包容和仁爱的群体。 我们能够在祷告中持续纪念自闭症患者以及他们的家人,求神保守怜悯他们,赐予力量面对挑战,也求神赐我们爱心去爱他们。 当面对自闭症患者,我们应该学习耐心地对待他们,专心聆听他们想表达的观念,细心观察和包容他们特别的举动。在教会里,我们能帮忙照应他们,好让他们的父母能安心,毫无旁虑地听道。我们最起码能做到的是真心诚意地关怀自闭症患者,尝试与他们沟通,走进他们的世界。 最后,虽然许多自闭症患者不善于以说话的方式沟通,但他们在打字能力方面相对来说会比较强。所以我们能利用科技,以Whatsapp等社交媒体与他们沟通。   人生有许多的苦难,但哪里有苦难,那里就有彰显神的荣耀的可能。让我们继续信靠前行,为主发光。   [vc_separator type='normal' position='center' color='#969496' thickness='' up='' down=''] Written by 林祐任, 国大理科系第一年 for Follower December 2018 (Chinese Work Newsletter)...

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